and here’s my journey.

I am

Jennifer Sextus

I started to question everything around me pretty early on.

I couldn't make sense of the world and people were a mystery to me. I would constantly see a great gap between what they said and thought they said, expressed they wanted and seemed to really want, thought they were feeling and seemed to truly feel… and that’s without taking into account what others understood, expressed through worlds, or non-verbally,…

I was lost.

It led me to study psychology, which helped but it didn't cut it. I dove into self-help, spirituality, astrology, Human Design, neurolinguistic programming, the nervous system, German New Medicine, intersectional feminism, family as systems (transgenerational trauma, family constellations, family loyalty,...).

I always end up having a systemic approach to everything I learn because nothing exists in isolation. In order to really get someone, we need to have a better understanding of everything that make up their environment. Even at an individual level, we are an ecosystem (this is what IFS -internal family systems- shows for example).

I’m eager to know what enlightens me on what makes the human experience so complex. What influences the relationship we have with ourselves? How do we find our place in our connections with others and in the universe?

I figured we're deeply influenced by the power of the subconscious and layers of conditioning.

If we have such a hard time being aligned, it's partly because some of our deepest truths haven't reached our conscious awareness yet.

We don't have enough spaces (outside of therapy and our close circle) to explore our inner word with other people. We need to untangle our thoughts and let our deepest self express itself in a compassionate setting. We need to feel safe enough not to be afraid of being interfered with in our process with judgement, opinions and unsollicited advice.

I also had to face this reality in my personal life as well so I decided to implement what I saw was lacking. Over time, I got recognized for my capacity to turn conversations into spaces where people gain clarity, feel heard and understood, and where they experience significant shifts in their mindset.

What I didn't know back then was that I'm here for this.

I learnt it with Human Design.

  • I’m here to guide people (back to themselves) with my focused, penetrating and absorbed aura. I do so by shifting their perspective with what I know. I lead people to see differently by expressing what’s in my mental awareness, by articulating my insights, and by getting them to think outside of the box.

  • I wait to feel called to get out in the world and experience life, retreat and observe, and embody my gifts and naturalness.

  • I live out my purpose through my interactions and relationships with others. The shifts I experience in my own awareness (gate 43) are rooted in listening to the life experiences and stories people share with me (gate 13). The new insights I’m able to articulate (gate 23) usually deeply resonate with them. It changes the way they see their own experience. When I express what I see, I influence people and lead them to recognize their own power and role in their lives (gate 7).

  • I have :

    • an active brain that needs to be stimulated in order to take in new information,

    • an observed body that needs to be stimulated in its environment in order to be regulated,

    • a perspective that is focused on details and precision,

    • a strategic mind that is organized in the way it conceptualizes, retrieves and delivers information.

  • I rely on my instinct and sense of alertness to sniff out lies, and uncover truths, potential and other things people may try to hide, etc. I’m sensitive to what’s safe and what threatens integrity.

  • I process life better when what I find juicy warms me up. I need to be deeply immersed in whatever I’m interesting in learning, through a variety of resources that I can mix together (courses, workshops, conversations, podcasts,…)

  • I thrive when I allow myself to be selective with who and what I surround myself with, when I block out what doesn’t help me regulate my body and when I honor the seasons I’m in.

  • I focus on relationship and power dynamics at play at an individual level, within groups of people and in the collective. I see what’s (un)fair, (un)balanced, who’s winning/losing, who has power/who doesn’t,…

  • I'm here to be very discerning, have faith, and let life be without interfering with it by taking responsibility for what isn’t up to me. My guidance, when expressed from that place, can help people find relief, be soothed and more surrendered.

Other things to know about me

In summary

I am a cis (pronouns she/her), black, queer, able-bodied woman. I'm also a very sensitive, introverted feminist. I crochet in my spare time, and like to write poetry in the spring. My favorite authors are Nina Bouraoui, Jeanne Benameur and Justine Lévy. I love to spend time in the forest and by the sea — I feel held by them.

Incredibly curious

When I want to learn about a topic, I become quite obsessed with it. I read everything I can about it, I listen to podcasts, attend talking circles, take classes if I can, talk about it every chance I get …up to the point where I leave it behind because I’m done with it. This is how I quench my thirst for learning.

Wrestling fan

It makes people smile when I talk about it, but I'm a big fan of wrestling. Maybe it's because one of my grandmothers loved watching it too and someone has to carry on the tradition! More than the wrestling itself, what I like most is being able to predict who's going to win or lose based on the storylines that are set up, and learning more about the humans behind the performers.

Mental health (slight sensitive content)

I spent several years struggling with my mental health (depression, panic attacks, self-harm, suicidal behavior) and I hit rock bottom more times than I can count. When I decided to approach my depression with openness and curiosity (and no longer as an enemy I didn't have the strength to fight against anyway), everything shifted. It wasn’t something to fix. It had valid reasons to be there. It was a natural, understandable experience and outcome given the life I’d lived. I just needed to understand why. It was time to live more in truth. Doing the same with self-harm and suicidality taught me a lot about the multiplicity of the mind. Essentially, I learned to develop compassion for myself and I experienced parts work in the flesh (years before I even heard about it, had therapy and studied it). It led me to question Western psychiatry and psychology, how they see/treat mental illness, and have a more critical view on our society as a whole. I prefer to conceptualize everything from a softer, more holistic and decolonial perspective.

Creative soul

I also have creative projects (crochet, poetry, drawings,…) that can be found on my other website and an Instagram account.